So this site is all about ways to avoid stress while planning for the big day, but let's face it; some stress isn't always that easy to avoid. So here are some actual ways to de-stress in the very moment you feel it... Make yourself a nice cup of tea. Tea is good for the soul in my personal opinion. And there are so many options out there, chamomile, green tea, white tea, oolong tea, you name it. But you can't just make any tea, you have to make it the old fashioned way; with a tea kettle. I swear, its therapeutic. I'm sure there is some scientific reasoning behind why it calms a lot of people down, but just from personal experience, I can tell you that it is so relaxing to pick your favorite, boil the water in that kettle, and then snuggle up on your couch with a fuzzy blanket and a hot cup of tea (add some honey for some great flavor). This will take your mind off of which venue to choose for at least half an hour! Better yet, make a spicy drink. That's right ladies, start pouring the tequila!!!! Well maybe don't start taking shots, but definitely have a glass of wine to soothe those those stress lines on the forehead. Wine has been proven to relax and soothe the soul.
And last but certainly not least... Get intimate with your partner, have sexy time, do the forbidden dance, get those juices flowing', HOWEVER YOU WANT TO SAY IT, JUST DO IT. Science suggests sex can improve mood and combat anxiety by reducing stress signals in the brain, according to Greatest.com. Sex will decrease your stress in the moment, and make you feel closer to your future hubby. What could be better?
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Ahhhh the groom. From what I have observed, I believe there are 3 types of grooms; The "I will just say what she wants me to say when she asks my opinion on things, because this is her day and I don't want to be wrong" groom. The more common "I do not give a damn about the color scheme, pick what you want and do not even ask me" groom. And finally, the very rare "I will be genuinely upset if you do not include me in decisions because this is my day too" groom. So depending on which one belongs to you, here's how to handle their moods and keep them happy on the big day too: When you are in love with a passive man, life is usually easy because you know he's pretty much cool with everything. But for your wedding day, things are a bit different. It shouldn't just be the bride that has to stress and plan every single detail. Why shouldn't the groom help you decide on the color scheme, when his groomsmen will also be wearing that color in some way, shape, or form? The stigma on weddings is that the bride does EVERYTHING because the man already did his job...by proposing. Sorry bud, but this is only the beginning. So instead of "I don't care, it's up to you," how about a "I like blue or purple, you can decide honey." Give him options and tell him to pick his two favorites, of whatever it is, so it isn't just you making the big plans and being so stressed that you want to rip your hair out and maybe scream a little. But what about the grooms who "truly do not care if you pick Lilac or Violet because they're both freaking purple, Becky"?????? Those men are usually tough guys who are too "manly" to help plan their own wedding. Solution for that? Draw them in, make them see that you want BOTH of your personalities to show in the wedding, and you need his help to do that. Make it known how important it is to you that he is involved. For example, ask him to pick something cool to wear that maybe both of you can do, like have the entire bridal party and groomsmen wear customized converse. There are so many ways to customize them, and really add some personality to your wedding day. He'll appreciate it on the actual day, I promise. And finally, the third type of groom I mentioned, the involved man. Personally, I think thats the best type of man. My boyfriend always talks with me about our future wedding plans, little things, like different color schemes and such just for fun. But its a great feeling to know he wants to be involved when the time comes. However, there are some brides that have a hard time relinquishing that control, and are scared if they let anyone have a say in anything (especially the groom), their wedding won't go according to plan. So for those brides: let up a little! This isn't just your day, its a day for you BOTH to celebrate your love. So try and do things together. Might as well start now, because this is the rest of your life! I am absolutely obsessed with weddings. I am your typical girly-girl that pins wedding dresses, screenshots beautiful venues with twinkly lights, and reads her boyfriend HowHeAsked proposal stories on Instagram, hinting really really heavily at how he should propose (sorry babe). Here's the kicker for this site though: I have a shit ton of common sense. I like to think so at least. I think about everything very realistically and logically, and wonder more than 98% of the time why other people can't, or just won't. It truly baffles me. So why not put common sense and wedding planning together, am I right? I wish I was exaggerating when I say I think about my future wedding at least 7 times a day. I watch every show you can think of that has to do with weddings, follow all the wedding blogs, and have Kleinfeld on snapchat. Mostly from watching the shows on TV that have to do with weddings is where I got this idea from. I see all these brides dealing with so much crap while planning their weddings, and just succumb to the stress of it to the point of a mental breakdown. For example, on one of the last episodes of Say Yes to the Dress (my personal favorite), one of the girls shopping for her big day brought her mother, grandmother, and two sisters with her. To me, that is the perfect group of people, not too many, and you have everyone there thats really special to you, and most importantly will be honest with you. You always want to have people that will take what you like into account, but also tell you if you look like a curve-less beached whale in something too. The mother on this episode had one of these qualities, and it was not the "taking what you like into account" part. This woman was so set on what she wanted, and didn't even bother to consider her daughter in it. Mind you, it was her daughters wedding, but she didn't seem to think that mattered. With situations like that, obviously this woman has been this way her entire life, so its hard to just say "Mom, this is MY wedding". But this girl was letting her mother walk all over her, and I couldn't stand it. This is the BRIDE'S day, not the Mother-of-the-Bride's (MOB), not the bitchy bridesmaids who "don't like lace", but the BRIDE'S. I think it's hard for some brides to really speak up and have their voices heard, especially when they have an outspoken group of friends of family. So my advice on dealing with them? DON'T!!!!!!!!! This is YOUR wedding day, this is supposed to be one of the best days of your life, so shouldn't planning it be just as great and wonderful? If you have a monster of a mother, or picky bridesmaids, all you tell them is "This is my wedding and I wear whatever dress I want!" The MOB can sometimes really be a pain in the behind. So what is the best way to tell your mom to let YOU do the wedding planning for YOUR day? Straight up tell her "Mom, listen. I love you so much, but this is my wedding and I'm going to make the final decision on things. I always love and appreciate your input but this is my day." Even if your parents are the ones paying for your wedding, they should still understand that these are your decisions, and they offered to pay so they should support that. Unless you are the definition of bridezilla and are trying to buy the most expensive tablecloths you can find... that's a different story for another blog. |